Kate's Story: Part 4

You have learned a lot about Kate and her family. Reflect on Kate’s and her family's experiences.

Reflection Questions:

1. CDC staff did everything right to protect Kate. What can you do to make sure you keep children safe?

   First, communication is critical. Child abuse and neglect is complicated. Often, there are many witnesses across many different locations. Each witness only has one tiny piece of information. It can be very challenging to put all of the pieces together. Our systems must be designed to help collect information and make accurate decisions. Work closely with FAP to provide information you have. Learn about resources on your installation.

   Second, education is critical. At several stages in Kate’s story, experts misinterpreted Kate’s injuries or the family’s needs. Again, child abuse is complicated, and a false accusation can have serious repercussions, so experts are naturally hesitant. When multiple signs point to child abuse or neglect, though, our systems should be able to recognize a pattern and provide the family with preventive supports.

   Third, resources and protective factors are critical. Kate’s family clearly needed support. At the earliest signs of violence, a community support network (mental health support, violence prevention) should have been put in place for Kate and her family.

   Take these stories as a clear message that we must all work together to protect children. We each play a role, and we must do our jobs well. Your job is to report your suspicions. You must trust that everyone else does their jobs well, too. Talk to your manager about Family Advocacy Programs. Know who your FAP teams are and talk to them about the work they do and how they can support your work.

2. Imagine Kate is in your classroom. Describe your emotions when you notice scars on Kate and make your report.

   You might feel nervous, scared, or angry. You migh feel embarrassed that you hadn't noticed the older scars before. You might feel doubtful that it is abuse.

3. Describe your emotions when Kate is withdrawn from the program.

   You might feel disappointed or angry. You might feel scared for Kate’s safety. You might feel embarrassed, ashamed, or remorseful if someone shares with you that the doctor said it was not abuse. But remember you did the right thing. You should feel proud for speaking up for Kate.

4. Describe your emotions when you hear Kate's stepmother talk about whipping children.

   You might feel angry or offended. You might feel spurred to action.

5. Describe your emotions when you learn the military police find Kate at home in such a terrible condition.

   You might feel very angry. You might be in disbelief. You might feel frustrated that the situation has come to this. You might even feel relieved that law enforcement is aware of the situation.

6. Describe your emotions when you learn that FAP and law enforcement are involved.

   You might feel relieved that Kate's parents are getting the help they need. You might feel reassured that Kate is safe. You might also feel a strong need to know more about the follow-up Kate is receiving, but confidentiality laws will prevent you from getting more information. This might feel frustrating, but it is important to respect the privacy of families.

7. Imagine your best friend is Kate's teacher. What would you tell your friend? What would they need?

   It would be important to listen. Let your friend talk, cry, and get angry. When ready, make sure your friend knows they have done the right thing by making reports. Encourage your friend to consider counseling if the stress of the situation is challenging. As Kate’s teacher, your friend might feel empowered to advocate for children and for additional supports and resources for families.